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My bf's daughter is hitting mine

I have been friends with my best friend for over 15 years. We met in college and been inseparable ever since, so when we had children at a similar time three years ago I thought it would be brilliant because we'd be able to to the toddler groups together and go for coffee's etc. But we didn't envisage our children not getting along! They are both three and got on well together until this year. Now my friends daughter is practically bullying mine. She takes his toys, hits him and calls him names. It's become really awful because my friend doesn't say anything to stop her from doing it, it's making me really dislike my friend and her daughter. I know she is just a child but there is no excusing her behaviour, it's vile. I think if my friend told her off she wouldn't do it, but she's allowed to get away with it so she does. The other day she called me and told me that her daughter had got into trouble at nursery for hitting another child and they had asked my friend to speak to her daughter about it. My friend said she was really mad at the nursery for accusing her daughter because she wouldn't do that. I was like WHAT? are you crazy? Don't you remember when she hit my LB? And she replied with, 'Oh she was just playing'. 
Maybe because he is a boy she thinks it's ok, I don't know?

It's got to a point now where I don't know if I want them around me now. I never thought I would feel this way about my best friend but she is so blind to her child's behaviour that I can't have her daughter around my child. How can I get out of this situation? 


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  • MumtoSam
  • @2014-03-05 13:45:16
  • United States
  • Age: 38
It's a difficult one, maybe try to spend more time with them so your son can fight his corner, so to speak. Because there will always be children who are more dominant, so it's best to learn skills to stick up for yourself from an early age.
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