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Now he wants to be on the birth certificate

My baby son's dad is not named on his birth certificate and he hasn't got his surname either. The reason for this is because we aren't married and when you aren't married, both parents have to be present at the registration and since he wasn't remotely interested for the first 16 weeks of my baby’s life, he didn't come with me to register his birth. He has been such an a** hole that I just don't want anything to do with him because he has made no attempt to contact me until my baby boy was 16 weeks old.

My little boy deserves more than this, it makes me cry all the time that I had a baby with such a waste of space. But now suddenly (and I don’t know why) he wants to be on the birth certificate and wants access. I don’t want him in my son’s life at all but I don’t know what his legal rights are.

Some help and advice would be great. Thank you. 


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  • SiobhanB55
  • @2014-02-03 22:38:27
  • United Kingdom
  • Age: 64
I kept my daughter away from her father for other reasons, he was basically abusive towards me. My daughter kept asking me who he was for years and eventually went off the rails until I told her, she was smoking, drinking all sorts.

I had to find him and they started seeing each other and she finally felt like she knew where she had come from as it had troubled her for years, not knowing her dad. He is no longer violent and they have a good relationship, weirdly I even get along with him myself. My daughter didn’t get on with me for many years for not letting her see him, so just think about it before you put a stop to all contact. Maybe you could ask a family member to be a go between and give him a chance while your baby is young and won’t remember if his dad doesn’t turn up.

Give him three chances and if he blows it then that’s it. It’s worth a try isn’t it? It sounds like this guy wants to try and make up for his mistakes.
  • Mansview
  • @2014-02-03 22:40:21
  • United States
  • Age: 33
He has no rights but it sounds like he regrets his original decision, give him a chance, a boy needs his father as well as a mother.
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