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Should I put my 15 yr old on the pill?

My 15 year old daughter has got a boyfriend who's a year older than her, who she's spending all of her time with. She even stays at his house, even though they are in separate rooms. But I don't want to be naive and think that they're not up to anything, we were all young once right!? 
Now I'm not sure if I should get her to go on the pill. I don't want her to think I'm accepting her having sex or encouraging it, but I don't want her getting pregnant either. We've got a very open relationship and talk about anything. 

How can I deal with this situation? Any ideas or tried and tested plans?


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  • dandy_andy
  • @2014-02-28 22:01:43
  • United Kingdom
  • Age: 46
That's a tough one and i completely understand where you're coming from. As you say, the problem is that if you mention contraception to her, she'll take it as a 'go-ahead' sign of approval from her parent. But to be honest, the likely-hood of her already having sex is high if her boyfriend is older than her. I would confront her about all this first - you mentioned you have an open relationship anyway so it should be fairly easy I imagine? It's really difficult getting teenagers to understand about sexual relationships - in my mind, they are far too young and naive even if they think they're old enough to understand. The media seem to bombard us with sexual references all the time and a lot of those tend to encourage sexual relationships to form between younger people as they glamorize relationships and make it all look easy. The sad reality of it all though is that sexual relationships are complex and can create all sorts of situations, many of which aren't addressed by the media.
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